The Secret of Our Connection

"I was recently in a group setting where we were asked: 'What keeps your relationship solid?' To answer that, I first have to paint a picture of who we are—the four souls who make up SAK2 (Sara, Angie, Kate, and Kissra).

'Polycule' is a word we only learned recently, but the bond it describes is something we have lived for decades. I have been with Kissra since high school, and Angie and Kate have been part of our core since 2002. On the surface, we are an impossible puzzle. We come from vastly different backgrounds—Arabic, Turkish, German, French, and Polish. We grew up in different faiths—Judaism, Islam, and Christianity—though today we find our strength in each other rather than in the structures of organized religion.

Our age gap spans from 1973 to 1988, and our financial and class backgrounds sit on opposite ends of the spectrum. By every cultural standard, we shouldn’t work. Yet, we are inseparable.

Our bond wasn’t just found; it was forged. We have survived struggles that put our loyalty and integrity to the ultimate test. We each saw something so unique in the others that we chose to nurture it rather than let it go. We fit together on a soul level where words simply cannot reach. If I had to summarize our secret in one sentence, it would be this: We accept and enjoy each other exactly as we are, without ever demanding change to fit a mold.

Our relationships within this unit are beautifully distinct:

• *- With Kate: My connection is poetic and gentle. She is soft, romantic, and deeply soulful—the empathetic heart of our home. In her, I see the best of myself.
• *- With Angie: She is my 'baby' whom I spoil without apology. We share the spirit of adventure; we are the ones who chase the 'crazy stuff' and the vibrancy of life that keeps our pulse wild.
• *- With Kissra: This is my most cherished, foundational relationship. Everything I have today is because of her. Our love was forged over a lifetime of noticing the tiny, hidden qualities that surface-level connections miss. We have reached a depth where we are essentially one (WiiR1).

To understand our love, imagine the way a person loves a cherished pet. You don't look at that creature and demand they change their nature; you simply tend to their needs and adore their unique quirks. We view each other’s 'faults' not as flaws to be fixed, but as the very things that make us individuals. This outlook is the key to our permanent, soulful infatuation.