Update to the Family: The New Beginning

Update to the Family
This is our timed update for the Family as per our agreement. However, I feel I must also touch on a few items for the sake of preserving our memories from the erosion of time.

When our polycule was established in 2002, we were just a bunch of pretty people together rocking through the world, young and rebellious. We had no experience in forming a close-knit unit. You know how it is when a relationship forms and, after significant time passes, everyone assumes a role when dealing with life. Back then, our relationship dynamics were very different. Isydia was the one holding the fort until 2010, when he decided to leave Montreal. I chose to go with him, leaving the good life behind. As Isydia started to fade away into Sara, our family dynamics adapted very quickly.

Gigi sees Sara as her life partner and soulmate; her entire world seems to revolve around Sara’s happiness and ensuring she is safe. Gigi does not want to see Sara hurt. Sara, on the other hand, seems independent and detached from the three of us, exploring the world in her new true self. Everything is new and exciting to Sara. It is really strange, their relationship—Gigi seems to want Sara to explore life under her supervision. Gigi is incredibly jealous, yet somehow she wants Sara to explore and not miss out on life, though under a tight leash. The two of them are oblivious to life's responsibilities.

Sara wants SAK2 to sail our new yacht without any help, just the four of us, unrehearsed. This is Sara’s way of gaining an organic experience, and Gigi only sees what Sara wants. Unlike before, I am much more at ease knowing I have Father holding my back if I ever need him. Our latest truce brought the peace we longed for decades ago.

The Oracle and the Foundation

All this leaves Katie and me to handle reality. Katie is incredibly delicate and extremely emotional, but her mind is an ocean of intelligence. She can analyze situations and predict outcomes with minimum information and incredible accuracy. Her methods of tackling issues are strange to me, but they work with remarkable precision. I find part of myself yielding to The-submissive-Katie’s incredibly deep, calculative mind.

Katie is letting Sara explore life without restrictions. She asked me to pull back, but I disagreed—until Katie explained that to avoid clashing with Sara, we will let jealous and overprotective Gigi report anything remotely bad-for-Sara. All we have to do is examine the facts, make a decision, and have Gigi enforce it.

Gigi’s past hardships made her the perfect person to look after the inexperienced and vulnerable Sara. She can detect bad people from far away. Sara always listens to Gigi; if we want to steer Sara in a different direction, all we have to do is show Gigi, then leave it to her to protect Sara using her own unique and crude methods. In a way, Sara is drifting wherever the wind takes her—a Gigi-influenced wind that Katie and I programmed.

The Channel with Father

Father asked me to restore a relationship with Sara. I feel it is more important to explain to Father who Sara has really become. Re-establishing a relationship with Sara is proving simpler than I previously thought; however, maintaining one is a real challenge. Father operates in the real world just like me, but Sara exists in another realm I do not fully understand. Katie is the only one who can travel to Sara’s world and back. I need Katie. I am beginning to understand what Sara told me earlier this year: we all need each other to exist, and she needs each one of us for her to stand and hold us all together.

Father never broke a single rulebook rule except for one: not finishing the battle with SAK2. This single act’s “consequences” have re-established “the” channel with Sara. According to the rules, only I can be the conduit to SAK2. Katie understands this all too well, and her calculative mind is finding ways to bridge the impossible. I have no doubt she will get through to Sara. When she does, speaking Sara’s language will become crucial to maintaining a healthy relationship between Father’s world and ours.

My unwritten debt to Father: I will fulfill my unwritten promise to establish a relationship with Sara. However, I will give you something else to show my gratitude for putting your weight behind Gigi, which restored my relationship with Sara: maintaining a healthy relationship is not easy unless you are true to yourself. To be true to yourself, you do not need a pure, empathetic heart! You only need to be free from manipulation. Do not see Sara through the lens of a deal. That is all you need to keep a healthy relationship with her; you can build and steer from there. If you need proof, I am your proof: Kissra. I am one with Sara—with all my darkness. This is Katie’s gift of gratitude. Father, you, Katie, and I, using Gigi as the foundation, are what helped each other open the channel with Sara. This is the key!

My final thoughts: For the next little while, Sara is going to take her time to mingle and explore under our supervision. We will keep her safe and shield her from getting hurt. After that, Sara will be ready for the rest of the Family, but not before. This period is delicate and, according to Katie, needs to be fully organic and free from outside pressure. I call this period “SAK2 breather.” Until then, the rest of the Family will have to wait. As Sara said: you (Father), and Samy are now friends of SAK2.

I owe Father a healthy relationship with Sara for putting his weight behind Gigi. I owe Katie SAK2 as one unit because she helped me restore my own relationship with Sara at her own expense. To the Family: you now have an unwritten debt to help you maintain a healthy relationship between our worlds, if that becomes your choice. And Katie now owes me for allowing her choice for SAK2 to stay in Winnipeg while Sara goes through her phase, instead of the logical choice of Montreal.